$$ Money $$

A marriage is like a snowflake. Each is different in its own way. In order for a snowflake to form you must have the right elements, conditions and balance. Just as importantly, you need the right conditions and environment for the snowflake to survive and thrive. Our marriage was a beautiful one. A love story like no other. We really got to know each other. We were the right fit in every way. All the elements for a successful love and marriage were present and growing. We loved each other deeply. We had common interests and goals. We wanted beautiful children to share our love with and build a family. Unfortunately, our surrounding environment has been applying heat to our snowflake. That heat damaged our marital and family bond. It may have destroyed the structure from which it grew. This world is a cruel place. It doesn’t value honest, hard-working, wonderful human beings. This harsh world values MONEY. How much money do you make? How much money can you make for the company you work for? How much money can you bring home? What can you buy? Where can you go? What can you do? What kind of life experiences can you afford? Money has its hand in all of it. As a result, money makes its way into a beautiful loving family too. It’s not by choice. It’s our surrounding environment. Our marriage is affected by money. Our family is affected by money. Our relationships are affected by money. In my case, it’s all affected by the lack of money. We can’t make rent…money. We need groceries for our growing family…money. Our children need new clothes…money.  We can’t escape the strong arm hold that money has on our lives, family, marriage and love. I tried so hard to protect my family from the effects of the lack of money but I failed. I continue to fail. I didn’t fail because I gave up. I didn’t fail because I was neglectful or reckless. I failed because I can’t change it. I can’t escape it.  This problem changed how my husband thinks about marriage and how marriage would be most beneficial in this cruel world and that changed how I felt about my husband.


Author: mariermaritare

We are a married man and woman who are trying to figure out life, love, family and marriage.

2 thoughts on “$$ Money $$”

  1. It seems that the two of you have hit a rough patch in your marriage. I am no expert. I have only been married 3 years and been together for 9 years. However as a woman of faith I draw on to the Lord for direction and guidance. He is the centre of our marriage and I find that helps. In my 31 years on this earth I have not been able to find peace in wordly comforts but only in relationship God. I hope you guys can make it work. Thanks for sharing your story with the rest of us.


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